You are not alone.
Holy Vulva! is a vaginismus community and support group for vulva-owners. Remote, worldwide, and run by someone who's been there.
- Online, worldwide
- Built on NHS peer-support guidance
I waited eight months for my first NHS physio appointment and didn't know a single other person with vaginismus. What I really needed was community.
What you can do here
Connect with others who understand
Share your experiences, only if and when you feel comfortable
Ask questions and learn from others
Celebrate progress, big or small
Be reminded that you're not alone
Whether you're just starting out, in the middle of treatment, or have lived with vaginismus for years, you'll be warmly welcomed.
Peer support works.
NHS England recognises peer support as a core part of supported self-management for long-term conditions. It improves quality of life, builds confidence, reduces loneliness, and contributes to better clinical outcomes.
Holy Vulva! is not a substitute for professional help or medical treatment. It sits alongside it.
Every month
Community Session
Led by Joy
A chance to feel seen and heard. A different topic each month, plus an optional personal progress check-in.
Expert Session
Guest speaker, plus Q&A
An expert in the field, with Q&A for all your burning questions.
Pelvic Floor Restore
With Aylin, experienced Yoga teacher
An accessible, online class incorporating breathwork and somatic practices for ultimate pelvic relaxation. Normally £12 per class - included in each membership plan.
- Access to our Vaginismus WhatsApp Community
- Catch up on recordings if you miss a session
What members say
It has meant that I don't feel so alone with my own journey.
To have access to all these people who understand what it is like to have vaginismus, and not have to explain, is so affirming and such a breath of fresh air.
You can join in as much or as little as you want. It couldn't be a safer space.
Joy runs the group with such generosity, empathy and organisation.
When I saw Joy on Virgin Island I couldn't believe there was someone like me on TV with vaginismus.
I really appreciate all Joy has done in bringing people together, from community sessions and chats to expert speakers and pelvic floor sessions.
It decentres penetrative sex as the only kind of sex. Intimacy is so expansive!
I really encourage anyone who is thinking of joining the community to do so!
Our guiding principles
A safe, confidential, co-created space that welcomes everyone with vaginismus.
Double Act Productions for Channel 4
Hi, I'm Joy.
I started Holy Vulva! after going on Channel 4's Virgin Island, when hundreds of women with vaginismus messaged me to say: Me too.
Ready when you are.
Pay what you can, from £8 a month. Participate as much or as little as you like.