Pay what you can. Everyone gets the same access.
There are four levels so that those who can give a little more help keep the community accessible for everyone. Whichever you choose, you get exactly the same thing.
There's no pressure to participate straight away. Join if you're curious, and engage whenever you feel ready.
Every month, as a member
Community Session
Led by Joy
A chance to feel seen and heard. A different topic each month, plus an optional personal progress check-in.
Expert Session
Guest speaker, plus Q&A
An expert in the field, with Q&A for all your burning questions.
Pelvic Floor Restore
With Aylin, experienced Yoga teacher
An accessible, online class incorporating breathwork and somatic practices for ultimate pelvic relaxation. Normally £12 per class - included in each membership plan.
- Access to our Vaginismus WhatsApp Community
- Catch up on recordings if you miss a session
Three things to check
- You're 18 or over
- You identify with having vaginismus
- You agree to our group guidelines
Community Rate
£8 a month
For students, those on a lower income, or anyone on a tighter budget. No proof needed.
Join at £8 a monthSustainer Rate
£11 a month
The standard rate. Covers the cost of running and sustaining the group.
Join at £11 a monthSupporter Rate
£15 a month
Covers running costs and subsidises reduced-cost places for members who need them.
Join at £15 a monthSuper-Supporter Rate
£20 a month
Covers running costs, subsidises reduced-cost places, and supports the future of the community.
Join at £20 a month
You'll be taken to GoCardless to set up your direct debit.
What happens next
Direct debits take 3 to 5 business days to go through.
You'll get a welcome email within 24 hours of signing up.
Sign up before a session and Joy will do her best to honour it even if your direct debit hasn't cleared. To guarantee your spot, sign up at least 24 hours before.
Cancel any time by emailing us or cancelling the direct debit. You will have access to the community until the end of the period you've paid for.
Safe, Supportive, Confidential
- Be kind, and keep what's shared in the group in the group. No screenshots or sharing outside without the poster's explicit consent.
- Participate as much or as little as you like. Camera off and pseudonyms are fine.
- The WhatsApp group is optional. Joining it means your number is visible to other members.
- This is peer support, not a replacement for medical advice.
Things people ask
Can I cancel any time?
Yes. Email Joy or cancel the direct debit. Access runs to the end of the paid period and doesn't renew.
What if I miss a session?
Recordings and summaries go into the members' Google Drive, so you can catch up.
I'm not sure I have vaginismus. Can I still join?
If you identify with having vaginismus, you're welcome. You don't need a diagnosis or to explain yourself.
Can my partner join or come along?
Sessions are currently for members with vaginismus. Occasionally we may put on sessions catered to couples/partners of those with vaginismus.
Do I have to turn my camera on or speak?
No, it's entirely up to you whether you have your camera and mic on or off. Members may also use a pseudonym if preferred.
I'm not in the UK. Can I join?
Yes. We're online and worldwide. Sessions are 7pm UK; the site shows your local time.
Is this medical advice or therapy?
No. It's peer support, based on NHS peer-support guidance, and it sits alongside professional care.
Is it only for women?
We welcome all vulva-owners who identify with having vaginismus, whatever their gender.
Want to give a bit more?
All the time that goes into Holy Vulva! is voluntary. If you'd like to support it further as a patron or with a one-off donation, get in touch.